We are all a product of our experiences. This informs and shapes our views, and influences how we look at things. Interwoven with our experiences are our personality traits. These identify who we are and when combined together with our experiences, they determine how we respond and how we behave.
All too often though, our ambitions are hampered by this combination. They create constraints on our capabilities and can limit our horizons.
I find this fascinating in my role as a Financial Planner. At Blue Sky, we are intent on encouraging and nurturing clients to live the life they want; to strive for fulfilment and happiness. Yet, on frequent occasions, we find that prospective clients can’t see beyond the immediate issues. They are looking for quick fixes and don’t want to have to spend emotional energy thinking beyond these short-term horizons. Often there is a fear about what the future may hold and they don’t want to think about it. Or, they deem it not to be important at their stage of life.
Then, add into the mix, what defines a person. With so many people, we discover that it is their job that defines them, especially highly paid professionals. They struggle to visualise their life beyond work. The same goes for business owners. As a result, they struggle to explore what’s beyond their current existence.
It was with interest that I read an article about Brian Little, one of the worlds leading experts on personality psychology. He states that our ambitions to improve our lives do not need to be confined by our personality. He believes that each one of us is able to act out of character when we are motivated by an important and meaningful personal goal. The thing is, we have to discover what these goals are.
Creating and attaining goals are what we are all about at Blue Sky; helping clients identify what’s possible.
Brian Little goes on to state that “your traits describe who you are whilst your projects and goals describe what you do and they are eminently changeable. Choose the right projects, approach them in the right way and you can make your life richer and more enjoyable”.
For Little, three forces govern our lives:
- Our biogenic natures: whether we are physiologically extravert, introvert or whatever,
- Our sociogenic natures: how we are raised, the culture we live in and the company we keep,
- Our idiogenic or “third natures”: which are comprised of our personal projects and the free traits we express in pursuit of them.