The title of this blog has not been inspired by the start of the football season, although it is does provide me with a nice topical link.
We’ve all made lots of mistakes haven’t we? The odd own goal now and again, which is etched in our memory and, in some cases, our psyche. I can think of five which immediately spring to mind on a personal level, three of which concern not grabbing opportunities some years ago, which were staring me right in the face.
Rather than beat myself up about these own goals, I’m pleased to say I moved on and reconciled with myself that this is all part of life’s journey. There were reasons and possibly the odd excuse as to why these happened. Whatever, I prefer to think of these experiences as a fertile breeding ground for further ideas and opportunities.
Yet, so many new clients we meet tend to be scarred by some of their ‘own goals’. Their experiences often limit their outlook, leaving them consigned to ‘their lot’. Inertia rules!!
When we see people for the first time, one of the aims is to ‘break the seal’ on the thinking that creates fear and limits opportunities. This isn’t always about taking more risk, sometimes it’s about lowering risk. The key, as we see it, is to find out what really makes the person happy. Sometimes more money would help but frequently clients have enough money. What they don’t have though, is enough confidence and sometimes a fear of losing it all! The latter is often linked to a previous personal bad experience or relates to events that have happened to people they know! A form of negative reinforcement comes to bear. Reasons are given as to why decisions haven’t been made, yet all too often there is a ‘generalisation from the specific’.
Having an objective third party helps enormously, a conduit for possibilities and, at times, excitement. The key is to continue evaluating your options, no matter how flippant or remote the ideas may appear. It just might result in you scoring a great goal rather than one of those own goals!